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What's the Deal with Nudes?

Dear Giselle,
I'm wondering what the big deal is about sending nudes? I mean, it's not having sex. They're just pictures.
Sincerely,
What's the Big Deal?


Dear What's the Big Deal?
Sending nudes is not a great idea for two reasons.
First, it you're under the age of 18, it may qualify as child pornography under your states' laws, and possession of child pornography (yes, even your own nudes) could be considered a sexual offense. That's not something to take lightly. There was a student at my high school whose nudes got leaked and he was charged as a sexual offender. (He was a minor so everything's sealed, but still this is best to avoid).
Secondly, your body houses the Holy Spirit, which makes it a temple. I know, I know, it's an overused line for everything remotely sexual, but it's a very real verse in scripture. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 says Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. (ESV) If someone only wants to be with you so that the two of you can share nudes, they aren't attracted to your character, your intelligence, your funny jokes, your skill at painting, or anything outside of your body. Never feel pressured to do anything with your body that you aren't comfortable with. You'll have to live with any consequences. 
Also, I want to address your idea that they're just pictures. How many times have you seen a commercial on TV that made you hungry because the food looked so good? Probably several. Pictures are stronger than we give them credit for and sending naked pictures will awaken a sexual appetite that is impossible to quench. It's best not to start that appetite with nudes.
Finally, if you've already sent nudes, or gone beyond a boundary that you now regret, remember Romans 8:1 There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus (ESV). You're not any less of a person or a Christian because you slipped up. Spoiler alert: we all slip up. Remember that all sin is equal before God, so never let someone shame you for sexual sin anymore than other sins. You're still forgiven, worthy, and beautiful. 
Your loving sister and fellow cellist in the tuba section,
Giselle

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