Dear Giselle,
My mom hates this band that I love. I don't know how to explain to her that it's something really important to me. Do you have any advice for dealing with a parent that doesn't support your interests?
Thanks,
Mom's Bad Band
Dear Mom's Bad Band,
Thank you so much for writing to me.
I want to start by saying that you are certainly not alone in this situation. A lot of teenagers find themselves facing off with their parents about their interests, activities, friends, etc.
It's important to keep in mind that your parents have your best interests at heart almost 99% of the time. (Yes, we're all human, and sometimes even parents can make selfish decisions regarding the activities or interests of their kids).
So, the first thing I would suggest is looking at some of the songs with your mother and discussing why she doesn't like the band. Maybe it's the language the band uses, in which case you may be able to play certain songs that don't use language your mother dislikes. Perhaps it's the message that your mother perceives the song to convey. Similarly to the language aspect, some songs may be more acceptable to your mother than other songs. If the band members themselves are the piece your mother has a problem with, consider looking for bands with similar music but different styles in fashion or life in general.
Sometimes, our parents don't know why something is important to you. This may be difficult to discuss with your parents because songs affect us so personally. However, if you can, play your mom a song that impacted you and explain why it really matters to you...a break-up, an inspiration, a new outlook on life. Knowing why a band is important to you may soften your mother to their music.
Overall, it's important to try to work this out with your mother now, so that it doesn't fester and spiral into a bigger problem later on. A band isn't a huge thing to compromise on when it could seriously affect an important relationship.
Your loving sister and fellow cellist in the tuba section,
Giselle
To submit your own question, email it to acellistinthetubasection@gmail.com
My mom hates this band that I love. I don't know how to explain to her that it's something really important to me. Do you have any advice for dealing with a parent that doesn't support your interests?
Thanks,
Mom's Bad Band
Dear Mom's Bad Band,
Thank you so much for writing to me.
I want to start by saying that you are certainly not alone in this situation. A lot of teenagers find themselves facing off with their parents about their interests, activities, friends, etc.
It's important to keep in mind that your parents have your best interests at heart almost 99% of the time. (Yes, we're all human, and sometimes even parents can make selfish decisions regarding the activities or interests of their kids).
So, the first thing I would suggest is looking at some of the songs with your mother and discussing why she doesn't like the band. Maybe it's the language the band uses, in which case you may be able to play certain songs that don't use language your mother dislikes. Perhaps it's the message that your mother perceives the song to convey. Similarly to the language aspect, some songs may be more acceptable to your mother than other songs. If the band members themselves are the piece your mother has a problem with, consider looking for bands with similar music but different styles in fashion or life in general.
Sometimes, our parents don't know why something is important to you. This may be difficult to discuss with your parents because songs affect us so personally. However, if you can, play your mom a song that impacted you and explain why it really matters to you...a break-up, an inspiration, a new outlook on life. Knowing why a band is important to you may soften your mother to their music.
Overall, it's important to try to work this out with your mother now, so that it doesn't fester and spiral into a bigger problem later on. A band isn't a huge thing to compromise on when it could seriously affect an important relationship.
Your loving sister and fellow cellist in the tuba section,
Giselle
To submit your own question, email it to acellistinthetubasection@gmail.com
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