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Dear Giselle,
I really like this guy and he drinks a lot. I don't want to drink, but I don't know how else to get his attention. Do you have any suggestions for getting his attention.
Sincerely,
Drinking Date

Dear Drinking Date,
This sounds like a complicated situation, but I'll do my best to help.
First, if either of you are under the age of twenty-one, remember that it's illegal to drink in the United States.
If you're over twenty-one, or the legal age in your country, my advice would be to find a guy that doesn't need alcohol to have fun. You certainly shouldn't need it to impress him.
Here's why: alcohol distorts reality. If you have to use alcohol to get a guy's attention, he's not paying attention to the real version of you. He's paying attention to a version of you that's a fantasy, like a dream. While we often have compelling romantic dreams, we usually don't act on those dreams in real life.
If you're really still interested in getting to know this guy, maybe ask him to an event that doesn't have alcohol, like a play or a movie rather than a fancy dinner or a sports game.
If his behavior or dependence on alcohol is concerning, consider telling someone you trust about it. You can also consider calling some of the national alcohol hotlines. Many numbers (and lots of helpful information) is available at this outside link:
https://addictionresource.com/alcohol/treatment/hotlines/
If he's under 21 and drinking, please consider talking to a parent, a counselor at your school, or another trusted adult. In an emergency, call 911.
And remember, never get in a vehicle with an impaired driver, and do your best to prevent them from driving themselves home.
Your loving sister and fellow cellist in the tuba section,
Giselle

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