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Sick of Singleness

Dear Giselle,
Why am I single?
Thanks,
Sick of Singleness


Dear Sick of Singleness,
There are many reasons that you could be facing a season of singleness in your life. Given your limited contextual information, I will give several possibilities.
First, this season of singleness may be a time to enjoy cultivating your own interests. Try things you've always wanted to do and enjoy the freedom to do what you want to do without compromising (except maybe on price). While relationships are amazing, don't forget that once you're married, you may not have as much time to discover your own interests, so if you've been contemplating that painting class, go sign up and give it a whirl!
Second, this season of singleness may be resented because of a recent break-up or one awhile ago that was extremely painful. Now would be a good time to journal and weed out resentment towards any exes you may have. Pray for forgiveness for your exes, especially if you feel particularly stuck in feelings of anger, bitterness, and sadness. Maybe consider writing out a letter to them, expressing why you are upset. You don't have to mail it or give it to them, but it can help to express your emotions on paper. 
Thirdly, a season of singleness may simply be a lack of effort. Make sure you're subscribed to my channel, because I recently recorded a video about waiting seasons that explains how women are expected to wait instead of pursuing a relationship, but that doesn't mean you have to sit on your butt and do nothing. (I'll put the video up in a week or two after it's all edited.) Go to social events and meet people. If you aren't meeting anyone, you won't meet "the one". (Be safe about this though. You don't have to sign up for all the dating apps and go to all the singles nights. Go to events with your other friends when possible and if not, make sure that someone knows where you are in case something goes wrong.) 
Finally, you may be single because God wants to use you as an individual in this season of life. I know that singleness can be really frustrating and full of boredom, impatience, loneliness, and all the feelings, but don't lose sight of your ultimate goal in life, which is expanding the kingdom of God, not finding your "soulmate". Use this time of singleness to minister to those around you with your specific gifts.
I hope that this was helpful!
Your loving sister and fellow cellist in the tuba section,
Giselle

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